Last Day For Unfinished Business

What can we do in one day that we didn’t do in the other 364 days of 2012 ? Not a lot but what you can do could make an enormous difference. We could forgive those that may have disappointed us in some way. We could ask those that we have disappointed to forgive us. When we forgive; it is for us, not for the person who may have hurt us. When we let it go we will be happier and healthier for it. We can let go of the hate we may have for another person, group, race or nationality. We are all brothers and sisters here on this earth. They may not believe as we do, they may not act as we do, and they may not like us any more than we do them but we are all the product of the same maker, who sees us all as perfect. I am not saying that if they try to harm you; to just let them but unless they do that, love them for who they are. Most people are decent loving people; even the ones we fear and dislike.

I am sure you have heard the term “random act of kindness” ; let’s resolve to show our kindness toward others in 2013. The more we show it to the ones we may not like, the ones we don’t understand,and yes the ones we may even fear, the more good we do.

Most of us who make new year’s resolutions either do it to lose weight or to get more fit or both. From my many years of reading about and researching the subject; plus my experience, I would like to give you my opinion and it is my opinion, nothing more or less. Ninety-nine percent of us; if we decide to, can lose weight, keep it off and become healthier. It will not be overnight; it may not be easy but it can be done. Others who were just as overweight and just as unhealthy as you have done it. You have the same God given abilities; so what makes you think you can’t do the same. There are hundreds of examples of people who have succeeded that you can use to inspire you. There are different techniques that work; all you have to do is find the one that works for you and use it. Everyone is different; it is not “one size fits all” when it comes to weight loss and getting healthy. Over the next few months I will be offering tips and how to’s to help you find what works for you. You can read one article that says do this and you will lose weight and then you read another that says do something else; it doesn’t mean that one of them is wrong. Both may work for different people but neither will work for everyone. You can pick up a point here and a point there and develop a customized plan that works for you.

For those of you who are planning to lose weight and get healthy after the new year; I would say that if you are having parties or a football together, enjoy yourself. The second of January is okay to start; no need to make it more difficult than it already is. I wish all of you a happy new year and a prosperous and successful 2013. Again I thank you all for reading my blog and for all of your support and encouragement. I will see you on the other side.    David Johnson

 

Reflections

Before we even hope for a better year in 2013; let’s reflect on the year we just had. What was it about this year that you liked and what would you have avoided if that were possible. As with most things; it is not all good nor all bad but a combination of the two. As it is a Sunday; most of us are off today and a lot of us will be off tomorrow as well. It is a perfect time for us to reflect on the year 2012 and decide if there is anything we would like to be different in 2013. I guarantee that 2013 will be different but will it be different in the way you want it to be; will random change meet your expectations. If we want a specific change; we must figure out what we must do to make that particular change occur. Random chance will give you infinite possibilities; even when flipping a coil you get a fifty percent chance of getting what you want. We must be the catalysis for the change we desire.

Are you up to the challenge? Are you afraid you will fail if you try? What would happened if you did fail? Would you not feel proud that you had the courage to try? Would you not learn from your failure? If you don’t give up; doesn’t a failure bring you closer to your goal? So, why not go for it? This time next year you will respect yourself for trying; you might even succeed. Wouldn’t that be wonderful?

I have been doing this blog for less than two months but I feel I have come a long way in that short time. There are so many things I want to do with it but some of it seems a bit overwhelming; more than a bit really. The only thing I know to do is to keep adding things as I learn and feel more comfortable with them. I may never be an expert but I have some good help and together we will hopefully get it done. If any of you have any suggestions to improve this blog please let me know; it will not hurt my feelings at all, in fact I will be grateful for the help. This blog is for you my readers; which for now are far too few but with your help, I may be able to add content that will be helpful to you and others to come.

In the new year I plan to do several full book reviews of some books that I feel would benefit almost anyone who would read them. I will put more attention on what to eat, how to prepare healthy meals, what not to eat, how certain foods are considered beneficial and may be used to either prevent or even treat certain chronic conditions. I will cover prevention as well as reversing chronic conditions with the proper diet and lifestyle. There  are chronic conditions that are considered irreversible that can be improved or reversed by a drastic change in diet and lifestyle.

This blog will never be a food blog but I plan to cook more, share healthy recipes from other blogs, modify recipes to make them more healthy and easier to make. If I could pick one thing that is killing people; it is people blindly buying and eating what the food industry is putting out there, with total disregard for the consumers health. Processed food is what is killing us; well not me anyway, I seldom eat it. I am in the minority though. Healthy food does not have to be hard to get, hard to cook. With a little planning you can have a healthy meal on the table in thirty minutes or less and it will be fresher and more nutritious than even the healthiest factory meal. And it will cost you less money. I will do more to show you how to do this. I will teach you about healthy oils, foods with fiber, the benefits of using herbs, eating fresh fruits, vegetables and greens. Snacks that are healthy and how to avoid those that aren’t. Whatever else you tell me you need to know.

So here is looking forward to a healthy, happy and prosperous new year; where you can enjoy good healthy food and have good health. You do not have to pick one or the other. If you are overweight or have chronic health conditions that may be helped by diet; please love yourself enough to at least give a change in diet a decent chance. It could be you last chance.

Happy new year, may it be a healthier one. I want to thank everyone who has read this blog up to this point and for the encouragement I have received.       David Johnson

2 Days and Counting, So Has Your Year Been So Far?

So how has your year been so far? Mine has been great. I have a lot to be grateful for; I am in good health, I have money to pay my bills, a roof over my head and plenty to eat, too much sometimes. I have a great family that loves me and wants the best for me. I have met a wonderful women that thinks I am wonderful and it is just so wonderful, oh you know how it is with new love, wonderful. I am at my lightest weight in at least forty-five years, I have a blog that I like doing and hopefully may help others to be healthier and happier in the future. The sky’s the limit; better things are just around the corner, the good life, so to speak. What do I need a new year for, I have it all.

Some of this is tongue in cheek but I did have a good year and I bet that regardless of how bad yours was you can find a lot to be grateful for. If you did have a quote ” bad year”look for the little things along the way that made you smile, that lifted your heart, that made the day bearable. I know you had them; you just have to remember them, give them credit, they helped you get through the year. Just think how hard it would have been without them. There was someone who smiled at you or went just a little out of their way to make your life easier. Said thank you when you really needed it, held the door for you or said have a good day. We all have things to be grateful for; sometimes we just have to look harder to find them but it is worth it to look. We will be happier for it, we will feel that our life had more purpose, that this time has not been wasted. The more  we see our blessings the more blessing we have to see.

If you have had a great year it doesn’t mean you have any less need to feel blessed or to be grateful for what you do have. The more gratitude you have the more you will have to be grateful for. Weather you have a little or a lot; be grateful, for with gratitude you open your heart to receive more.

Whatever kind of year you had in 2012;  let’s open our hearts going into the new year to make 2013 our best year ever. The more we give to others the more we receive in return. I am open and ready for the new year and I can’t wait to see what the new year brings. I hope that everyone reading this will be just as grateful for the past year this time next year as I am now.

Thanks for visiting, you are always welcome here. May you and yours have a healthy and happy day and a wonderful and prosperious 2013.       David Johnson

How Do We Use A New Year’s Resolution For Change?

Do you make new year’s resolutions? If so; how has that worked for you? If you answered that it works beautifully; them maybe you can skip this but then maybe there will be something here that can help you do even better. Most people’s resolutions don’t even last until the end of January. Why do they fall by the wayside so easily? We mean well but after countless failures we get to the point where we don’t even want to try anymore. I hope I can give you some pointers that may keep you going until you can start seeing some results. Once you see results it makes it much easier to keep going.

My first suggestion is to sit down and spend some quite alone time and determine what is really important to you.Then we determine what we would need to do differently to make that happen; make a list. Determine which item is the most important to creating the change you want to see; list these items in order of importance starting with the most important. By each item rate it as to it’s perceived difficulty; by this I mean rate it as to how hard it will be for you to do this for the time required for it to become a habit and to yield results. It will take you a minimum of twenty-one days to make this a habit; do you feel that you can do this for the required amount of time. Even though I believe that it is best to focus on the item that is likely to give you the best chance for results; if you feel you may not be able to do it successfully, then  maybe you need to do something that you are more confident about. The importance here is to give you some measure of success to motivate you to continue. Once you have success you can feel more confident to tackle a harder task and feel you can successfully pull it off. Success leads to more success. Which task will you be most motivated to do; even if that task may be of lesser importance than another, if that is the one you will stick to, it may be the best choice for you to start with. We need that early success to keep us going.

It you have a long list; please do not try to do it all at once; you will fail. I would recommend you limit the things you want to change initially to a maximum of three items and if the items are a major change, start with only one. A long journey starts with one small step, make a new habit, then add another. Change is progressive; not instant. It does’t matter how beneficial the change is if you never do it. Find something you can do; then make it a habit, then move on to the next change and repeat until you are where you want to be.

For example; if you want to get healthy, there may be a lot of little individual steps that you may need to take, each being rather easy to do but impossible if undertaken all at the same time. There may be things we need to stop eating, things we need to eat, exercises we need to do, stress relievers we need to use, even relationships we need to change and maybe even a job change. A few small changes over time can make a huge difference overall.

I am here to help; let me know if I can. Comments are always welcome.

Thanks for visiting, you are always welcome here. May you and yours have a healthy and happy day.       David Johnson

To Resolve or Not to Resolve

With the new year approaching; almost here in fact, are we to resolve to do better, be that person we have never been able to achieve or do we just resolve to accept ourselves as we are? Either way will work; either can make us happier. When we accept ourselves as we are, love ourselves as we are, we set ourselves up to be immeasurably happier than we have ever been. This doesn’t make us perfect; in our eyes or in the eyes of the world but in reality we are already perfect. We are who we are meant to be at this stage of our lives but it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t change, or that we won’t change. Life is change; everything changes, it can come slowly or it can be sudden but it will come.

When we accept things as they are; we still have to deal with the changes that occur but instead of planning the changes we want, we adapt to them as they come. We still have a measure of control because we get to decide how we react to and adapt to the changes. In others words; our attitude determines whether these changes make us or break us. Is this change an opportunity or is it a catastrophe. When we accept the change we are in control, we are not at the mercy of someone else or something out there that is doing something to us. This is my life and I will live it to my best ability, no one else is pulling the strings that control my life. I accept it as it is and I will make the best of it.

When we resolve to change something about ourselves or some situation in our lives; we are making a conscious effort to bring different circumstances into our lives and not just to react to what naturally happens to us. We can accept our situation as it is but still plan to change what we don’t like about it. First off we need to determine if what we want to change can be or is it something we have no power to change. There are a lot of things that can be changed but not by us. Somebody else for example; the only person we can really change is ourselves. We can influence others to change but until they are ready to do so, that change will never come regardless of how much we want it. When we try to change another; it sets us up for a lot of frustration and pain. If what we want to change is not within our power to change we should accept it and move on. It doesn’t mean that we have to give up the hope of change but just our responsibility for it. We can of course have an influence on or be a model of change for that person. Love them and accept them as they are and be there for them when they need it.

The person you can change is you. Tomorrow I will talk more about how to go about it.

Thanks for visiting, you are always welcome here. May you and yours have a healthy and happy day.       David Johnson

Getting Old, Getting Happy

It has been proven that people get happier as they get older; so if you want to be happy, get old. I will admit that might not be the best strategy; for by the time we get there we may not have much time to enjoy it. So why do we get happier as we age? I would think it is because we are so grateful to just still be here; after all we could be like a lot of our friends and who now have a permanent address at the local cemetery. This may be a little tongue in cheek but it really is true that older people are happier. I know I am.

So, really, why are we happier? Although we may acquire others; we are past a lot of the struggles of younger life. Up until about the age of fifty we look and work toward the future; getting an education, forming relationships, establishing careers, raising our families, planning for the kid’s college and our retirement. By about fifty some of these things have been accomplished, others are on track to be and others we now seen as impossible or at least very unlikely to happen. Once we accept where we are in life; what our future looks like and in most cases realize that all the things we have been working for all our life is either unobtainable or not needed for us to be happy. This leads to less stress and over time less responsibilities.

The sixties seem to be our happiest years; even into the seventies we can be as happy as we were in our twenties if we have reasonably good health. Again the key is accepting our limitations and using our strengths. We may not be able to do a lot of the things we did in our younger years but we have talents and strengths we hadn’t acquire then as well. Many of us do things later in life that we couldn’t do earlier because of responsibilities, finances  lack of maturity or because it just wasn’t the time.

What have you always wanted to do but never thought you would get the chance? What is on your bucket list? What talents do you have now that you didn’t then? I am sure you have more patience; probably more free time, maybe more money, you are probably a little wiser too. So what is stopping you? The more you accomplish, the more you feel you have used your potential the happier you will be. If it will benefit others; so much the better but I know it will benefit you.

I was 66 when I started this blog; I wasn’t sure I could even do it, I can and I am proud of myself for doing it. It will probably never make me famous but then that isn’t the goal. I am sure it won’t make me rich either but I am enjoying it and I am getting better at it. So what do you want to do that you are afraid to try? If I can do it; so can you. There is a new year at hand, let’s do it.

Wishing you all the success you desire in the coming year and beyond. Remember nothing happens, until something moves.  Albert Einstein

Thanks for visiting, you are always welcome here. May you and yours have a healthy and happy day.       David Johnson

Merry Christmas

Whether you celebrate Christmas as the birthday of Christ or as just a chance to spend time with family and friends is up to you. There wouldn’t be a Christmas to celebrate without the birth of Christ but I think he would be proud if we follow his teachings to love ourselves and those around us. What better time will we ever get than Christmas to show our love, to our family, friends and of course to strangers.

I want to wish everyone a loving, joyous, happy and merry Christmas. I hope you have everyone you hold close with you, if not in reality, then in spirit. Oh; and let’s push back from the table before we do too much damage.

Hugs to all.   David Johnson

Practice Time

This is the perfect time of the year to start a tradition, that of sharing your love with hugs. Hugs are free; always the right color, the right size, the right flavor, the right temperature, perfect in fact. Hugs make us feel happier, hugs are the easiest way to communicate our love to others; friends, family and strangers. I know most of you ladies think hugging a strange man is the last thing in this world you want to do; unless maybe if it is Brad Pitt or some other hottie. You men who might be pron to take certain liberties if someone hugs you; behave yourselves, we will all benefit.

Most of us during this time of the year give hugs and get hugs more frequently than other times of the year because there are parties with family and friends. We have family we don’t see often come to town  to see us or we go to see them. When we love someone and it has been some time since we have seen them, we want to hug them; unless of course if we came from a family that didn’t hug.

I was an only child and I can’t remember a lot of hugging as I grew up. I am sure that my mother did when I was young but I can’t say I remember it. I remember my mother hugging me before I left to join the Air Force and years later I remember hugging my Father. I don’t know if he ever hugged me. After I married and we had children of our own; we made an effort to hug freely; my girls we raised to give and receive hugs. We still take the effort to hug each other; it is almost an automatic thing to do with us.

People who hug are happier and happier people live longer. There is even a website that teaches you how to hug. www.hugswithlove.com     When we give or receive long hugs our bodies release the bonding and feel good hormone oxytocin. Hugs make us feel loved, that we are accepted, that we are worthy of someones effort and just plain good.

So let’s take this opportunity where it is more acceptable for hugs to get in the habit of hugging. If you are not sure about a hug; ask if you may hug them, never force a hug on anyone. If you do it with respect; most people are open to being hugged. Let’s make this a more loving world; by hugging those who need it, even if we are the one who is in need. We will all benefit.

Many hugs to you all this Christmas season and through out the new year. Let’s make 2013 the greatest year yet.   David Johnson

Hugs

Are we still here? I guess the curse of the Mayans didn’t get us after all. Not a curse really just a misunderstanding; I guess we thought they knew more than they were telling us. Probably they just didn’t know near as much as we thought they did. I am sure they were very advanced for their time but compared to today; maybe not so much. Why do we get these ideas; why are we always afraid of what the future holds, the unknown? If we knew what was to come; even if we knew everything would be alright, especially if we knew everything would be alright, what then, I think I would get bored real fast. Where is the fun; the adventure if we never have surprises come into our lives. We always want everything to go our way, we want all the money we could ever want, to be able to have anything we want. I have news for you; if you could have everything you ever wanted, you would still not have happiness because stuff doesn’t make us happy, not for long anyway. I am an eternal spiritual being spending a lifetime here on earth as a human being; what is the big deal even if yesterday had been the end of the world, I would have just changed my address. I would still be, you would still be, everyone would still be but our excursion as a human being here on earth would have ended This is not the only place for us. I don’t want to give you the impression that I am ready to go, end this existence here, I am not,but for now I am happy here. I feel that I have things left to do here but if not, then so be it, I am not running the big show. There is a power greater than me. I would miss being able to try to  help my kids and grand-kids, see my grand-kids grow up, see what they make of their lives. I don’t know but maybe I can make a difference in somebody’s life, make it a little easier, share some wisdom, help them not to make the same mistakes I did. I am nowhere ready to go but hey; that is not my call, so why should I worry about it. I don’t.

I am glad you are still here. I sincerely hope that you and your loved ones are having the most marvelous and happy and blessed Christmas season possible. Hug everyone for me.         David Johnson

Are We Happy Yet?

We are five days out and counting; anticipating it or dreading it, before long Christmas will be history. Some of us are looking forward with gladness and excitement; looking forward to spending time with family and friends, giving gifts, receiving gifts, eating good food, maybe good drinks as well and all the joy to be had. Getting out to help others less fortunate; spreading the holiday cheer and trying to ensure that we all have the best experience possible this season.

Others can only wait for it to be over. Are you normally a happy person but there is  something about this time of year that you just can’t get right? You may be unemployed and feel that the ones you love will not have the kind of Christmas you would like to provide them. Regardless of how caring, loving and generous you are; putting yourself through hell and the stress involved helps no one, neither you or the people you feel you are letting down. If you are broke; your kids and other family members already know it or should  and are not expecting a windfall of goodies this year. They had much rather spend time with someone who is grateful for what they have; who can see the season for what it is, an opportunity  to spend time with loved ones and enjoy what blessing we do have.

Are there memories from your past that hinder your enjoyment of the Christmas season? The past does not determine the present, nor the future. What happened then happened; but it can not hurt us now unless we let it, the past is history, we can and should learn whatever lessons we can from it’ so we don’t repeat it but other than that it is gone forever. The only thing that can determine your happiness now is your actions now. So if the actions of the past left you lacking; then do something else. If someone in the past ruined your comprehension of Christmas, get past it or remove this person from your present experience. You are the one who determines your happiness; by your thinking, your beliefs and your actions.

Here is wishing you and yours the happiest, most blessed Christmas ever. Relax and enjoy the season, a week from now what you were worrying about won’t matter anyway.