Do you make new year’s resolutions? If so; how has that worked for you? If you answered that it works beautifully; them maybe you can skip this but then maybe there will be something here that can help you do even better. Most people’s resolutions don’t even last until the end of January. Why do they fall by the wayside so easily? We mean well but after countless failures we get to the point where we don’t even want to try anymore. I hope I can give you some pointers that may keep you going until you can start seeing some results. Once you see results it makes it much easier to keep going.
My first suggestion is to sit down and spend some quite alone time and determine what is really important to you.Then we determine what we would need to do differently to make that happen; make a list. Determine which item is the most important to creating the change you want to see; list these items in order of importance starting with the most important. By each item rate it as to it’s perceived difficulty; by this I mean rate it as to how hard it will be for you to do this for the time required for it to become a habit and to yield results. It will take you a minimum of twenty-one days to make this a habit; do you feel that you can do this for the required amount of time. Even though I believe that it is best to focus on the item that is likely to give you the best chance for results; if you feel you may not be able to do it successfully, then maybe you need to do something that you are more confident about. The importance here is to give you some measure of success to motivate you to continue. Once you have success you can feel more confident to tackle a harder task and feel you can successfully pull it off. Success leads to more success. Which task will you be most motivated to do; even if that task may be of lesser importance than another, if that is the one you will stick to, it may be the best choice for you to start with. We need that early success to keep us going.
It you have a long list; please do not try to do it all at once; you will fail. I would recommend you limit the things you want to change initially to a maximum of three items and if the items are a major change, start with only one. A long journey starts with one small step, make a new habit, then add another. Change is progressive; not instant. It does’t matter how beneficial the change is if you never do it. Find something you can do; then make it a habit, then move on to the next change and repeat until you are where you want to be.
For example; if you want to get healthy, there may be a lot of little individual steps that you may need to take, each being rather easy to do but impossible if undertaken all at the same time. There may be things we need to stop eating, things we need to eat, exercises we need to do, stress relievers we need to use, even relationships we need to change and maybe even a job change. A few small changes over time can make a huge difference overall.
I am here to help; let me know if I can. Comments are always welcome.
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