Those of you who have read my writings already know that I believe that our happiness ultimately comes from within and no outside condition or person can guarantee it. Some of us look to another person to make us happy, some look to money, houses, cars or other things. Whatever happiness we get from these are at best temporary; true happiness comes from within.
That said; having a great romantic partner, a great family, good friends that love you does certainly makes it easier. As with the saying that you have to be able to love yourself before you can love others; it is hard to help someone else to be happy if you are unhappy yourself. I want to talk about the importance of having loving relationships in our lives and how we can improve them. We humans are social creatures, we thrive when we have other like minded people in our close circle. So how can we maximize the relations we have, whether romantic, family, friends or co-workers?
- Remember everyone is an individual and has their own likes, ideas, needs, wants and ways of thinking.
- No one goes into a relationship to give the other person what they need.
- If we don’t expect anything from a relationship we will be more grateful for what we get from it.
- Their job is not to make us happy.
- Don’t ask them to give you something; if we have a need they will probably offer.
- If they offer you help, take it if you will benefit unless they are doing it to make you feel obligated to them.
- Relationships are never 50/50; we at times may give more than we receive and at times receive more than we give but if the relationship is a good one, it will even out.
- That said; when we can, we should give all that we can for there will be times, we can’t.
- Always treat others as you would want them to treat you and they will usually reciprocate.
- The old saying “ To have a good friend, be a good friend “ rings true.
- Be nice to people who can not help us, it cost us nothing but the thought to do it.
- A smile is free to you but may be priceless to the one it is directed to.
- People don’t want us to change them; they will change when the cost of being as they are exceeds the cost of changing.
- They don’t want our advice either unless they have asked for it. Even then don’t be offended if they don’t take it.
- They don’t want to hear our constant complaints either.
- If we can’t find something to love and respect in everyone we don’t need to be in a relationship with them.
Any or all of these tips may help us have better relationships and having good relationships with others makes it easier to be happy. It also leads to a longer and healthier life.
Thanks for visiting, you are always welcome here. May you and yours have a healthy and happy day. David Johnson