With the new year approaching; almost here in fact, are we to resolve to do better, be that person we have never been able to achieve or do we just resolve to accept ourselves as we are? Either way will work; either can make us happier. When we accept ourselves as we are, love ourselves as we are, we set ourselves up to be immeasurably happier than we have ever been. This doesn’t make us perfect; in our eyes or in the eyes of the world but in reality we are already perfect. We are who we are meant to be at this stage of our lives but it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t change, or that we won’t change. Life is change; everything changes, it can come slowly or it can be sudden but it will come.
When we accept things as they are; we still have to deal with the changes that occur but instead of planning the changes we want, we adapt to them as they come. We still have a measure of control because we get to decide how we react to and adapt to the changes. In others words; our attitude determines whether these changes make us or break us. Is this change an opportunity or is it a catastrophe. When we accept the change we are in control, we are not at the mercy of someone else or something out there that is doing something to us. This is my life and I will live it to my best ability, no one else is pulling the strings that control my life. I accept it as it is and I will make the best of it.
When we resolve to change something about ourselves or some situation in our lives; we are making a conscious effort to bring different circumstances into our lives and not just to react to what naturally happens to us. We can accept our situation as it is but still plan to change what we don’t like about it. First off we need to determine if what we want to change can be or is it something we have no power to change. There are a lot of things that can be changed but not by us. Somebody else for example; the only person we can really change is ourselves. We can influence others to change but until they are ready to do so, that change will never come regardless of how much we want it. When we try to change another; it sets us up for a lot of frustration and pain. If what we want to change is not within our power to change we should accept it and move on. It doesn’t mean that we have to give up the hope of change but just our responsibility for it. We can of course have an influence on or be a model of change for that person. Love them and accept them as they are and be there for them when they need it.
The person you can change is you. Tomorrow I will talk more about how to go about it.
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