We are in control of our lives. We are in control of our lives even if we don’t step up and take control. When we abdicate control we are still in control. When we allow things to happen randomly in our lives; we are in control, for we allowed it. That does not mean that things that we don’t want will not come into our lives but we still have control of how we react to those things. We can say; oh s–t I am doomed, why does this s–t always happen to me, it is too hard I am going to just give up. Instead we can say; I didn’t really want that to happen, I wonder how I can fix that or maybe I can find something positive in this that I can use. When something expectantly happens we may actually think we are domed but with some thought and study we can usually find some way to either eliminate the affects of what happened or if not, maybe reduce them to a manageable level. Even if we can’t; life usually goes on.
So how do we exert maximum control in our lives. Before we do that we need to determine what we really want out of life and then decide what we are willing to do to achieve that. It makes no sense to want the moon if you are unwilling to go into space to have it. Why not limit what we want to those things that we are willing to seriously work for. This will eliminate a lot of useless frustration and stress in our lives. It is perfectly okay to want anything unless it is something we can only obtain by taking it from another or by hurting another. The only requirement is that we be willing to do whatever is necessary to obtain it. It makes sense to me that we make doubly sure that we want it before we put out the time and effort to get it. Many people spend years working for something and then when they get it find it doesn’t give them the satisfaction they expected it would.
So why should we want to be in control. I don’t know about you but I don’t want someone telling me where I can live, what I can eat, where I can go, how much money I can make, who I may associate with or anything else that I am capable of doing for my self.. We were born with free will and if we don’t exert that free will we are not fulfilling our purpose here.
If we feel we are not in control we need to look at our lives and see where it has gone wrong. I have read that the people who dislike their jobs the most are the ones who feel they have no control of their own destiny. If we are in a situation where we are unhappy or we feel stuck, we need to stop and consider what we can do to either regain control or to get out of the situation entirely. This could be a job we don’t like or it could be a relationship that is no longer working.
So what is the pay off for being in control? Better health and more happiness. The one helps us to live longer and the other makes us want to. Life is too short to spend it being unhappy.
Thanks for visiting, you are always welcome here. May you and yours have a healthy and happy day. David Johnson